The first media class I ever took was in grade 12; before this class I had never thought twice about the constant sexual exploitation of women. I had never really noticed how often a woman is seen topless in movies, or how of the music videos on MTV might as well be shot in a strip club. I had not noticed the inequality of exposure because this was the depiction of women I was used to. After taking this class my eyes began to open to the vast realm of advertisements and media and I started to become media literate. This semester I had two classes which touched on very similar topics: Advertising and Society and Women and the Media. Though my senses were keen before, I find watching TV is now more than ever a grueling process for me. Instead of spending my time zoning out and escaping to a television program, I find myself critiquing shows, advertisements and making fun of how ridiculous they are. I find that television often infuriates me and most often I just end up turning it off.
The Eros project and the sexual liberation theory are two very important chapters in History. I think that sexual freedom is invaluable and that we are lucky to live in a society that is beginning to become a lot more open to various sexual practices. I do not follow any religion, and so I do not have any standards as to what sex should be, except fun and satisfying to the individual and their partner(s). I have no problems when it comes to homosexuality, transexuality or any other combination of identities, if you’re happy and not causing anyone harm, them I’m happy too. I find the queer theory to be very interesting and more likely to be true than people being born into their gender roles and expectations. I am glad that I do not live in a sexually repressive country where I could be mutilated to ensure no sexual gratification, or where I could be convicted for expressing myself.
All of this may come as a surprise to you, the reader, as I have generally come off as quite conservative with my posts thus far. Let me be clear in how I feel… Liberating sex and having it evolve over the past century to be something fun, kinky, natural and creative is a great thing; I wouldn’t have it any other way. Where I have a problem with where this sexual revolution has gone, is that men have typically been the captain of the ship. They have ensured that the female body has been exposed as much, and as often as possible. When watching TV, reading a magazine, watching a movie, a music video, listening to music, women are a million times more likely to be shown as naked, demeaned, scantily clad, sexualized, put in suggestive situations etc… So if men have been the ones to push this sexual revolution, why can they ‘put out’ too? It is so seldom that you see a man in a movie that is stripped naked and meant to be seducing, strictly for the pleasure of the female viewer. But if we reverse the roles, we wouldn’t have to look any further than the average action movie, teen comedy, or slasher film to see copious amounts of breasts, and often times much more. As I said in an earlier post, it doesn’t seem like a sexual revolution to me at all… it seems like a male sexual gratification system that is getting more and more extreme. Yeah, Sex is everywhere… FEMALE sexuality. I get exhausted by the constant messages trying to worm their way into our brains. “Psst… Look at me – look at my perfect boobs, look at my tight ass… This is what you wish you looked like… this is what every man wants.” And it’s true too, we all want it in some way or another, but we’ll never be able to attain it, because it’s not real. The sad reality is that as technology advances the whole image of a woman will become further and further from reality.